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Are You Living the Life You Want or Is It Just Happening?

One of the phrases often used when talking about enjoying life or ensuring you make the most of your time here, goes something like this …You do not want to be lying on your death bed “wishing” that you had done things which you could be doing now!

The underlying message of course is that we should take a little time to understand what is important to us and to actually work towards achieving those things while we still can.

Recently I came across an article on life planning in the context of financial planning … incidentally I’m much better at spending money than I am at planning how to maximize it! However the article talked about three questions that are used by The Kinder Institute (one of the first institutes in the field of Life Planning). The questions seemed to make sense in the concept of making you think about what is really important to you … so I thought I would share them.

1. Imagine that you are financially secure, that you have enough money to take care of yourself and your needs, now and in the future. How would you live your life? Would you change anything?

2. Now imagine that you visit your doctor, who tells you that you have only five to ten years to live. You won’t ever feel sick, but you will have no notice of the moment of your death. What will you do i the time you have remaining? Will you change your life – and how will you do it?

3. Finally, imagine that your doctor shocks you with the news that you only have 24 hours to live. What feelings arise as you confront your mortality? Ask yourself: What did you miss? Who did you not get to be? What did you not get to do?

I am a fan of having goals … and to have a “bucket list” is really to establish some goals for your life. These questions can help you to crystalize your thoughts and make sure that you are living the life you want … rather than the life that just happens to you.