My dad went to war in 1939 and was at war until 1945 … on the few occasions that he talked about his experiences he described it as 99% boredom and 1% terror. Of course his answer to boredom was to get into trouble, and his answer to terror was to confront his demons, yell louder than the other guys and “go for it”.
In our work lives today we have “demons” to overcome every day … but generally the results are not “life and death”.
It might be the fear of cold calling, or a fear of calling someone in authority.
It might be the fear of an audience, of public speaking or being “on stage”.
It might be the fear of “going against the pack”, making unpopular decisions or “showing up” a colleague.
These are human emotions … and despite what anyone tells you EVERYONE has these fears. There is no shame in the fear … the challenge is in how you react to the fear.
Here are some thoughts for you:
1. What are the consequences (presumably negative) of NOT “doing it”?
2. What are the consequences (positive?) of “doing it”?
3. Can you practice in a safe environment first? Role play with a peer? Do it in front of a mirror?
4. Have you done the prep work necessary to ensure your success?
5. Who could mentor you through the “first one”?
6. What is the WORST thing that can happen … and as long as it is not a “life and death” thing then just do it!
7. Who do you know that is good at it … because they once felt exactly like you do? If they can do it, so can you!
8. It gets easier with time … so close your eyes and jump (figuratively speaking).
9. You only live once … and in my experience, it goes REALLY fast, so take your chances while you can.
10. It will be just fine to look back on your life thinking maybe I shouldn’t have “done that” … it will be infinitely worse to look back on your life and wishing you had “done it”.
“One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.” Maya Angelou