People with a positive attitude generally look for ways to get things done, rather than looking for reasons NOT to do it!
Other people seem to relish the role of shooting down ideas.
There is a role in life for the “devil’s advocate”, BUT it is often way too easy to be focused on the reasons why something won’t work, or why something is wrong.
It is much harder to be the person solving those issues and helping to make things work.
In my experience it is the people who “make it happen” who (a) have more fun; (b) are in demand and (c) find the most success.
It is also my experience that those people are not all “optimists”, not all “extroverts”, not all “intellectuals’ … in fact they are a “type” unto themselves.
I believe that anyone can learn to adopt a “can do” attitude, and if the world were populated with more of them then we would be in a better place.
The typical reactions of the “naysayer” to a good idea, or a different/better way of doing things is:
“It’ll never work”
“We’ve done it this way for the last 10/20/30 years … there’s a reason for that”
“You are underestimating the politics/infrastructure needs/technology hurdles etc”
The typical reaction of the “make it happen” kind of person is:
“I can see a few hurdles, but let’s battle through them and make this thing fly”
“Its about time we started to look at things differently … let’s push this”.
“Great ideas … I think we need to bring in some expertise in a few areas to help smooth out some potential issues, but its a great start.
"Naysayers have little power over us - unless we give it to them."
If you are an entrepreneur you will have had the “pleasure” of meeting all the people who tell you the many reasons why your company won’t work.
If we all listened to them there wouldn’t be any new companies.
Next time your instinct is to shoot down someone’s idea, stop for a moment and try to look at it through their eyes.
Better still pretend it is your own idea and find ways to make it even better!
The same principle applies to believing in your (or someone else’s) ability to sell a solution; or make a team; or pass an exam; or learn something new etc.
Think about the times in your life when perhaps a bit of positive support might have made a difference … don’t be “that person” who shatters someone’s dream or even just bursts their balloon.
Instead be the person who finds a way to make it happen!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
Kevin Dee is the founder of Eagle (a Professional Staffing Company)
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I write these articles with the intent of sharing MY experience and knowledge gained during MY life journey. From the 16 year old joining the Royal Navy, through many incarnations, to the grey haired guy who built a business. If you find a nugget here, then I am happy. If the message offends you then I apologise, that was never my intent. I know and recognize there are many people and groups who have a far bigger challenge than I have had and I only wish you well.