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Thoughtfulness

We live in a world that is fast paced, and sometimes the “little” things can be forgotten. yet the
“little” things can also mean a lot!

In our Western society we work a lot, commute a lot, deal with our family commitments, deal with many “hassles” on a daily basis, have issues about money and generally have busy lives.

The fact that there are many people “worse off” can be a good reminder every now and then, so that we can remember that we really are lucky.

For me one of the biggest casualties of our “busy existence” is the absence of thoughtfulness in so many of us!

The fact is that a moment of thoughtfulness can mean so much to people … but for many of us our brains are too full of “stuff”, or we forget our manners, or we just don’t see the importance of the “niceties” in this busy world.

BUT … think about those times when people have been thoughtful to you. It made a difference. It brought a smile to your face. It made you feel good. It was a bright spot in your day.

The thing about thoughtfulness is that it costs nothing … yet its value can be priceless!

Make it a part of your day to be thoughtful … at least twice a day (as a starting point).

Start really small … hold the door for people instead of letting it swing in their face. Smile and say good morning to the people on the elevator. Ask the receptionist how his day is going.

Maybe you could move up the value chain a little …

Make it a personal goal to know when your colleagues birthday’s are, and send them a note.

Know when your clients have a special event and remember to ask about it.

Send a hand written note to your staff when they do something special.

Notice when someone has lost weight, has a new hairstyle, a special suit etc.

Be NICE instead of scowling your way through the day.

Brighten up someone’s day with a kind word, a simple gesture or just a big smile!

Remember just like the credit card ad … it costs NOTHING to be thoughtful … but the value to the people who receive your thoughtfulness is PRICELESS!


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4 thoughts on “Thoughtfulness

  1. As a manager, I try to make a personal connection with my staff at least once a day… ask about their family, their assignments, even how they are feeling. And when they do something a little out of the ordinary, I try to recognize it with a hand written note or some verbal recognition at the next team meeting. It's amazing how many people are surprised by and seem to appreciate the personal touch.

    What I have found difficult is that some leaders that I have worked with in the past did not seem to appreciate the investment in the personal relationship. I know that it doesn't take a lot of time, but it does take time. Can you suggest how I can respond to these leaders about the importance of making an investment in the relationship?

  2. As a manager, I try to make a personal connection with my staff at least once a day… ask about their family, their assignments, even how they are feeling. And when they do something a little out of the ordinary, I try to recognize it with a hand written note or some verbal recognition at the next team meeting. It's amazing how many people are surprised by and seem to appreciate the personal touch.

    What I have found difficult is that some leaders that I have worked with in the past did not seem to appreciate the investment in the personal relationship. I know that it doesn't take a lot of time, but it does take time. Can you suggest how I can respond to these leaders about the importance of making an investment in the relationship?

  3. Everyone has their own management style and there is a reluctance for many people to get "too close" to those who report to them.

    I think its a fine balance. It is very difficult to be "friends" with your staff and to also "manage" them. So you might be experiencing a little of that thinking.

    On the other hand many studies show that, especially the Millenial generation, want their boss to take an interest in them and respond positively to that.

    So … another thing that could be happening is a that the managers you refer to might be more "old school" based on the demographic grouping (Boomers like me for instance).

    Also … we all have different "relating styles". Analytical, driver, expressive and amiable. The different communication styles will mean some people are more comfortable getting "close" than others.

    http://eagleceonews.blogspot.com/2006/09/communicating-with-different.html

    Lots of things could be at play here … my advice is to focus on the things you can change and to be an influence where you can. And keep being nice to people!

  4. Everyone has their own management style and there is a reluctance for many people to get "too close" to those who report to them.

    I think its a fine balance. It is very difficult to be "friends" with your staff and to also "manage" them. So you might be experiencing a little of that thinking.

    On the other hand many studies show that, especially the Millenial generation, want their boss to take an interest in them and respond positively to that.

    So … another thing that could be happening is a that the managers you refer to might be more "old school" based on the demographic grouping (Boomers like me for instance).

    Also … we all have different "relating styles". Analytical, driver, expressive and amiable. The different communication styles will mean some people are more comfortable getting "close" than others.

    http://eagleceonews.blogspot.com/2006/09/communicating-with-different.html

    Lots of things could be at play here … my advice is to focus on the things you can change and to be an influence where you can. And keep being nice to people!

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